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How
and where did you meet
your soul mate?
About
four months before
I met my wife I was looking for a new job and I had a vision of a
historic building with flags out front. Turns out this was where I was
going to be working for the next 3 years.
A couple of months after I got the job my ex-fiance (yes I had been
engaged before) called me up out of the blue saying, "How
can you marry her? You better not marry her! Why would you want to get
together with someone from Etobicoke?" She then went on to describe a
girl and where she lived. It seemed that my ex-fiance had a dream and
in it I was married to someone other than her.
So here I was working away and doing pretty good at this new place of
employement. Then one day my manager came down and told me I was going
to be
training a new girl that was just hired.
You probably can guess what happened...
I remember standing there staring at her. I don't know if she noticed
but at that moment I didn't care. I was mesmerized. She was beautiful.
It didn't happen exactly like in the movies but it was pretty close.
Time seemed to almost come to a standstill and all I could see was her.
She seemed to be standing within a beam of light. Like there was
someone in the ceiling shining a spotlight on her. I'll never forget
that day.
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How
long have you been
together?
It's
been a little over
four years now.
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Are
you married? And if yes
how long?
Yes
we've been married
four years now.
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If
married how long did you
date before you got married?
It
was something like 3
or 4 months. I was a party promoter and one night out on the patio of a
party that we we're throwing I asked her to marry me. We had been
joking around about it earlier that week.
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Do
you have any children and
if so how many?
Yep
two awesome kids.
Eavan who's 3 and 1/2 and Shea who'll be 2 this December.
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Were
you searching for the
one?
I
would have to say that
I had been searching for the
one. Before I met my wife it was almost an
obsession. Then one day I just came to a deep peace and acceptance of
my life either with or without someone in it. Shortly thereafter I met
my wife. I was cool either being alone or having someone to share my
life
with me. But deep down I knew I was ready to share my love.
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How
social were you?
a) Went out every night of the week
b) Went out 4-5 times a week
c) Went out 2-3 times a week
d) Went out once a week
e) Didn't really go out and socialize much
I
would have to say c)
Went out at least 2-3 times a week.
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On
a scale of 1-10 where 10
is lots of self-esteem and 1 is no self-esteem rate your personal
self-esteem at the time when you met your soul mate
About
a 9. I wouldn't say
that I was Captain Confidence or anything like that. I'm super
comfortable in my own skin and in my mind I'm 6' 4" and a raging
Adonis. (In real life I'm about 5'9" and easy on the eyes)
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Did
you make sure to dress
well everywhere you went?
Yeah
pretty much.
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Were
you working out, doing
yoga, or any other form of personal training?
I
don't really remember
working out much but I did rollerblade alot and pretty much danced
until 2am at least 2 nights a week.
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Were
you using any date
sites? If yes which ones and how was your experience?
Nope. Never have.
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Had
you created a list, even
within your mind, of the type of person you wanted to be with?
Yes
very much so. I had
created a very detailed list of exactly what I wanted the significant
other to be like. Before I met my wife, when I was making peace with
the fact of being single for the rest of my life, I took the list and
burned it in a specific ceremony in the field behind my house.
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How
did you know this person
was the one?
I
just knew. It was a
deep feeling that went beyond logic and reason.
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How
important was it to have
things in common with your soul mate?
I
thought it was going to
be very important but after hanging out with my wife it became less and
less. We have some things in common and we try to experience those
things together. For the other interests we encourage each other to do
what makes us happy.
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Do
you fight or argue with
your soul mate?
Uh
yeah. I think that
this is where people have a real fantasy about the whole soul mate
thing. You're still going to argue. You're still going to fight. You're
still gonna drive each other crazy. Welcome to life as a couple.
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How
do you resolve conflicts?
We
scrap it out in the
octagon UFC style. She's got a mean left hook.
Joking. We talk it out.
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Do
you encourage your soul
mate to have a life outside of the relationship?
Most
definitely.
Especially now that we have kids.
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How
do you keep the spark
alive in your relationship?
Well
with the kids we
really have to make sure to find time for each other. We don't have a
lot of support so it's not like we can just pawn the kids off on
someone and then go out on the town.
We plan ahead and have committed to having at least one date night a
month. We also usually cuddle on the couch saturday nights and watch
movies.
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What
is the most important
quality for a relationship to work in your opinion?
Joy.
You need to
experience joy and laughter daily. And not take life so seriously. Have
fun and love each other more and more each day.
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Do
you think you can have
more than one soul mate?
Yes
I do. I would never
have imagined answering yes to this question before but now I believe
we can and do have multiple soul mates.
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What
advice would you give
someone looking for their soul mate?
Be
you. Be honest. Be
open. Be ready. Wear your heart on your sleeve. Be clear about
who you are and who you want in your life then let go. Let life bring
to you a
person that
is beyond anything that you could've imagined. It happened to me.
